My Independence Day…..


We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

When will this statement from the Declaration of Independence be applied to ALL of the citizens of the United States of America? Many, including members of my own family, stand on their self-proclaimed Conservative Christian Faith and scream at the top of their lungs that this country was founded on CHRISTIANITY. And that GOD willing, we will return to THEIR level of Conservatism in the next election. They would deny Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness to me simply because I am gay.

The Declaration of Independence was just that. A statement that we the citizens of the Colonies had the right  to dissolve our connection with Britain citing Laws of Nature and Nature’s God. “When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.” 

So here we have “Creator” and ‘Law’s of Nature” and Nature’s God”…..Nothing there about Church of England, Catholic, Protestant, Quaker or Queers….so no DOGMA was adopted there. Not sure what DOGMA is??  Dogma: A doctrine or a corpus of doctrines relating to matters such as morality and faith, set forth in an authoritative manner by a church.

The Constitution is the document that lays out the frame-work of government and the division of power and our judicial systems and makes no reference to BEING a CHRISTIAN to be in good standing as a citizen of this country. In fact there is no mention of CREATOR – LAWS of NATURE -NATURE’S GOD or GOD in this document. Nope – No DOGMA there either.

Then along came The Bill of Rights.   And because of the persecution under the previous government  and the CHURCH of England they felt the need to ensure these RIGHTS First.

Amendment I Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.

So inferring again that the country was BASED on conservative Christian values is a big steaming pile of poo.

Had the founding fathers intended to form a government based on a doctrine or a corpus of doctrines relating to matters such as morality and faith, set forth in an authoritative manner by a church they would have just been abandoning the Church of England for the establishment of the CHURCH OF AMERICA. We have a country settled by a majority of Christians who respectfully created a land set up with a separation of Church and State.

Someday, I hope we all are allowed Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness without the exceptions that some would bind us with. Someday I hope to marry and when I get married – that “SIGNIFICANT OTHER” will be my WIFE. And that doesn’t mean I’m more masculine than her and that I have to take out the trash while she makes dinner. It’s not about defining domestic roles within a household. It means she is the woman I love and make a commitment to for life. She will be my wife and I will be hers. THAT is what being a spouse should be. And if that level of commitment or lack there of determined a title then my Mother would be a WIFE…my father?  a “Significant Other”…..if even that. His level of love, honor and cherish over the years has been in serious default…so what makes him a husband? His signature at the bottom of a certificate filled out in a judge’s chamber issued by the State of Oklahoma…not a church.

I would have married a tall blue-eyed blonde if she would have had me. But GOD had other plans for my life and hers. Yes…I do believe in God. A power that guides my steps, my words and my voice to stand up for myself and those like me that want nothing more than to express our love for someone in the ultimate way. To marry and to build a family. Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness. It’s meant for anyone.

I love each and every one of you, all people, all races, all religions, all preferences ALL GODS CHILDREN.


7 comments on “My Independence Day…..”

  1. I like the term “significant Other” because it is saying to me that here is a person that balances me in spirit, mind and body. It honors that person. I do not like to be called “Mrs. because it tends to imply that you are someones shadow and not an individual. I have struggled all my life to become a person that is loved and liked for who I am and not who I am married to. I would have been very happy if I could have thought of my husband as a ‘significant other”. So as you can see the terms husband/wife don’t mean that much to me but “family” does. My family is very important to me—the loves of my life, each different and unique.


  2. I guess it all depends on where you are coming from. You see it as meaning MORE THAN and I see it as saying LESS THAN. If you were denied the right to call someone your husband or wife it falls under that category of “Grass always greener”.
    When they don’t provide a box for you to check that fits they leave a box for “OTHER”…
    I love you Miss Wanda…I wouldn’t be here without you in more ways than one.


  3. Most of us are raised with those roles you mentioned here in the household and just like any of the other things people use the phrase “That’s How I Raised” it strongly applies to the desires to be married, to partner, to share the day today. For life of me I don’t see why folks can’t understand why it is the gay’s want to marry…We Were All Raised That Way!


  4. Here, here. Beautifully said, as usual. Recent events in New York have inspired both sides. We have an election coming up, and once again, we have an elitist, ultra-conservative d***kweed of a governor who wants to be president. If ever you have felt compelled to volunteer, now is the time to do it.


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